You just wait till I get back up to the Big City. I will take you on the 'best' date ever. Mwah!
Nics
· 4 years ago
Why are boys the whole world so silly? I hope he doesn't make you decide to starve yourself of men completely Stolie. Apparently there are good ones out there. Somewhere.
Nics
· 4 years ago
erm, why are boys the whole world over so silly? that's what i meant to say.
MamaChristy
· 4 years ago
How DARE he! I am so sorry to hear that you have had a crummy week and that jerkwad stood you up twice. Karma, baby. What goes around comes around and he will soooo get it. If there's any way I can help karma along, let me know...
Guri
· 4 years ago
I hope the next week will be better for you Stolie :) Thanks for your comment - I did spend the better part of the weekend recovering.
miss anon
· 4 years ago
girl, i think you and i are living the same life these past weeks. i'm apparently, supposed to be going on long-awaited "date" this week ... and if he stands me up(bc he's been flaky in the past, two or three times already), so help me god, i'll go to his place of work and run his fingers through the shredder.
would you like to know the worst thing of all? OUR PARENTS set us up.
what IS it with boys the world over? i just don't get it.
_
Berry
· 4 years ago
Being stood up sucks. I had that happen by this guy in D.C. It really hurt my feelings because I was looking forward to spending time with him. I think it is great though that he revealed his colors so early on and saved you a lot of unnnecessary drama.
little a
· 4 years ago
what makes someone do that? not turn up AND not call. Maybe it was something our parents taught us as girls - be polite and always call to cancel, don't just not show up. I've never been stood up simply because people don't tend to 'date' here in australia - or maybe they do and i just never did. all i know is dating sounds scary as hell. even without the fear of being stood up.
rcknrobin
· 4 years ago
oh no..that's just wackness. don't cut nobody though! ;)
Darwin
· 4 years ago
Unless he had to donate a kidney to his dying aunt who also happens to have a brain tumour and AIDS and had a car crash this weekend, I'd say its downright rude to do it TWICE!
As an aside I added a link to your blog on mine, hope you dont mind. I really like reading yours!
Mint Chutney
· 4 years ago
Twice?? Fool me once, shame on you.. fool me twice, you better move across state lines cos I will not be fucked with.
Sid
· 4 years ago
1. I love your RAGE pic! 2. What? Stood you up twice? what in the hell is wrong with people? Forget him!
stolie
· 4 years ago
Tonito Bandito: THANKS! And, *I* can't wait until you get here either. :)
Nics: "I hope he doesn't make you decide to starve yourself of men completely Stolie." I have to admit that I considered going out on a date with a woman given the horrible luck that I've had with guys in NY lately.
MamaChristy: I soooo hope Karma comes back around and bites his dick off one day.
Guri: It's Monday morning and I certainly hope this week starts better than last week ended.
miss anon: I'm sure that your long-awaited "date" will turn out better than my "dates" which the New Boy did. If your parents set you up, he'd be a complete IDIOT not to show up.
Berry: It's crazy. I'd NEVER been stood up in my life. I was honestly SHOCKED that he didn't show up. My first thought? Don’t you know who I am?! *You* should feel pretty damn excited that *I* agreed to go out with you. (I know, I'm vain; he was “cute” but I’m cuter and I typically date guys that are hotter than this guy was.) And, you're right, it's not just that I was/am angry, it's also that he hurt my feelings. I trusted him and believed his story about the first stand up. And when he did it a second time, it just seemed much more "cruel."
little a: "what makes someone do that?" I honestly have absolutely no idea. It's odd because this stuff has *NEVER* happened to me. All of a sudden, here in NY, it seems like it's no big deal and it happens often. There was this Italian Boy who didn't call me back. And, now there's the Stand Up Guy. In both cases, *I* thought we had a connection, they said they felt a connection, they used words like "gorgeous" "intelligent" and "witty" to describe me. And, then they both blew me off. I don't get it. I've never stood anyone up in my life. I've called to cancel dates at the last minute, but I CALLED. I didn't just not show up. I honestly can't fathom why someone would stand someone up. It's just the most bizarre thing in the world to me.
rcknrobin: If this week goes as bad as last week did, I might.
Darwin: I agree; it's so unbelievably rude. And, by the way, thanks for the link. Welcome to the Stolie Nation. :) (This reminds me; I need to update that page to include the new members.)
Mint Chutney: HILARIOUS!!!!
Sid: I think the picture is on a Rage Against the Machine CD cover. (I love that band; especially, the song Freedom.) And, about the boy, I honestly don't know. I don't get it either.
missbhavens
· 4 years ago
Ooof. Twice? That's just...I just don't get it. Twice? One sob story and one no-show? It's unspeakably rude. Men...I mean boys...are a mystery to me. Why is this considered ok behaviour? Was he under 35? Was he under 25?
Mitch
· 4 years ago
Simply put, that's just rude! That's worse than not replying to phone calls etc. The first time, he can be forgiven, provided he makes it up to you, two times though is just way too much...
Quite simply, his loss...
stolie
· 4 years ago
missbhavens He was 37. He would have been the oldest guy that I'd ever met for a date. I typically date guys that are between 27 - 32. I have fun with "Under 25" boys every now and then, but it's just that: fun.
At one time, I thought about dating Late 30-something men to avoid the immature games. But, then again, the guy who stood me up is going to be 40 in a few years. Plus, two of my ex-boyfriends--Le Canadien and The Republican Mexican--were mid 20-something guys and they were both extremely mature. Actually, when people meet Le Canadien, they always think that he's in his mid- to late-30s. (I think it's his high-stress, management-level, corporate job; it's literally aging him and killing him. But, I digress.)
At any rate, all of this is to say that I'm not sure if going older is the answer. They say you (both men and women) can be "a child" only once, but "immature" forever.
Mitch: I know. I figure everyone deserves a second chance. Things happen. But, when he stood me up AGAIN, that's when I got ***REALLY*** pissed off. By the way, about that "his loss" thing ... that's very very sweet of you. :) Thanks.
Anhoni Patel
· 4 years ago
Now that's what I call classy. What an asshole.
goldennib
· 4 years ago
Sounds to me like you ran across a control freak and / or emotional vampire. Someone who torques people up just for the sick fun of it. Next time trying running over him.
stolie
· 4 years ago
Anhoni Patel: Very well put.
goldennib: New York is surprisingly small. I "run into" friends and the same random strangers on the city's streets quite often. If this man is ever so unlucky to somehow find himself in my path one day, I'll "go Russell Crowe on him" (as Sid would say) and beat the hell out of him with my cell phone.
NEO
· 4 years ago
Stolie -Sorry you're bummed. Guys can be tools sometimes, look at it this way at least you learned the "True Him," before wasting too my effort on him.
Hope you're doing better!
*hugs*
Pegs
· 4 years ago
Does this guy by any chance install cable? I am sure he (or one of his close, personal friends) was supposed to install my cable four days in a row about 18 months ago...
Now you know what the rest of us were talking about when we told stories of being stood up. Rude, yes. Inevitable, yes. Date long enough, LIVE long enough, it will happen to you, too.
I didn't know Le Canadien was so young. Had me fooled.
Jenn
· 4 years ago
It's weird but I was just thinking about the women who stand me up. You tend to forgive your girlfriends more easily, but after about a hundred times, it gets old.
I agree with Neo. At least he showed his true colours before you wasted any time with him.
Besides, don't go out with guys you don't find hot. They don't realise they're godawful which is always a bummer.
Polygamous bisexuality is the way forward!
stolie
· 4 years ago
NEO: Good point. And thanks for the "*hugs*" :)
Pegs: Yep, believe it or not, when Le Canadien and I started dating, he was only 25 or, maybe, 26.
Jenn: You may be on to something with this whole polygamous bisexuality stuff.
lala
· 4 years ago
I'm a little short on words today - but let me put it simply: men suck.
All Comments
would you like to know the worst thing of all? OUR PARENTS set us up.
what IS it with boys the world over?
i just don't get it.
_
I've never been stood up simply because people don't tend to 'date' here in australia - or maybe they do and i just never did. all i know is dating sounds scary as hell. even without the fear of being stood up.
As an aside I added a link to your blog on mine, hope you dont mind. I really like reading yours!
2. What? Stood you up twice? what in the hell is wrong with people? Forget him!
Nics: "I hope he doesn't make you decide to starve yourself of men completely Stolie." I have to admit that I considered going out on a date with a woman given the horrible luck that I've had with guys in NY lately.
MamaChristy: I soooo hope Karma comes back around and bites his dick off one day.
Guri: It's Monday morning and I certainly hope this week starts better than last week ended.
miss anon: I'm sure that your long-awaited "date" will turn out better than my "dates" which the New Boy did. If your parents set you up, he'd be a complete IDIOT not to show up.
Berry: It's crazy. I'd NEVER been stood up in my life. I was honestly SHOCKED that he didn't show up. My first thought? Don’t you know who I am?! *You* should feel pretty damn excited that *I* agreed to go out with you. (I know, I'm vain; he was “cute” but I’m cuter and I typically date guys that are hotter than this guy was.) And, you're right, it's not just that I was/am angry, it's also that he hurt my feelings. I trusted him and believed his story about the first stand up. And when he did it a second time, it just seemed much more "cruel."
little a: "what makes someone do that?" I honestly have absolutely no idea. It's odd because this stuff has *NEVER* happened to me. All of a sudden, here in NY, it seems like it's no big deal and it happens often. There was this Italian Boy who didn't call me back. And, now there's the Stand Up Guy. In both cases, *I* thought we had a connection, they said they felt a connection, they used words like "gorgeous" "intelligent" and "witty" to describe me. And, then they both blew me off. I don't get it. I've never stood anyone up in my life. I've called to cancel dates at the last minute, but I CALLED. I didn't just not show up. I honestly can't fathom why someone would stand someone up. It's just the most bizarre thing in the world to me.
rcknrobin: If this week goes as bad as last week did, I might.
Darwin: I agree; it's so unbelievably rude. And, by the way, thanks for the link. Welcome to the Stolie Nation. :) (This reminds me; I need to update that page to include the new members.)
Mint Chutney: HILARIOUS!!!!
Sid: I think the picture is on a Rage Against the Machine CD cover. (I love that band; especially, the song Freedom.) And, about the boy, I honestly don't know. I don't get it either.
Quite simply, his loss...
At one time, I thought about dating Late 30-something men to avoid the immature games. But, then again, the guy who stood me up is going to be 40 in a few years. Plus, two of my ex-boyfriends--Le Canadien and The Republican Mexican--were mid 20-something guys and they were both extremely mature. Actually, when people meet Le Canadien, they always think that he's in his mid- to late-30s. (I think it's his high-stress, management-level, corporate job; it's literally aging him and killing him. But, I digress.)
At any rate, all of this is to say that I'm not sure if going older is the answer. They say you (both men and women) can be "a child" only once, but "immature" forever.
Mitch: I know. I figure everyone deserves a second chance. Things happen. But, when he stood me up AGAIN, that's when I got ***REALLY*** pissed off. By the way, about that "his loss" thing ... that's very very sweet of you. :) Thanks.
goldennib: New York is surprisingly small. I "run into" friends and the same random strangers on the city's streets quite often. If this man is ever so unlucky to somehow find himself in my path one day, I'll "go Russell Crowe on him" (as Sid would say) and beat the hell out of him with my cell phone.
Hope you're doing better!
*hugs*
Now you know what the rest of us were talking about when we told stories of being stood up. Rude, yes. Inevitable, yes. Date long enough, LIVE long enough, it will happen to you, too.
I didn't know Le Canadien was so young. Had me fooled.
I agree with Neo. At least he showed his true colours before you wasted any time with him.
Besides, don't go out with guys you don't find hot. They don't realise they're godawful which is always a bummer.
Polygamous bisexuality is the way forward!
Pegs: Yep, believe it or not, when Le Canadien and I started dating, he was only 25 or, maybe, 26.
Jenn: You may be on to something with this whole polygamous bisexuality stuff.
You deserve so much better.