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Twanna A Hines funkybrownchick — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 20:06:29 -0000

I think I'm too much, too. :)

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Bianca Reagan — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:08:08 -0000

I'm sorry that happened. I've never had a threesome, but some people don't know what to do with me either. In the words of Suzanne Sugarbaker, "I'm too much, too."

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Twanna A Hines funkybrownchick — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 05:51:42 -0000

Hey there!! :) You said, "People will see what they want to see ( usually something that co-signs their agenda and makes them feel better about themselves at your expense)." VERY well said. :) Thanks.

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dkzone — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 11:00:51 -0000

1 threesome a slut does not make.....

I actually married my sexually extroverted friend.

I liken peoples reaction to this..... Some people will see a brown dress and think it looks like shit....others will see a wonderful chocolate mousse.

People will see what they want to see ( usually something that co-signs their agenda and makes them feel better about themselves at your expense)

Take care, and keep your head up....

PS threesomes aren't really freaky.....unless farm animals are included =P

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Twanna A Hines funkybrownchick — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:51:13 -0000

Heeeey, add Tiffany's site to the list of cool brown stuff, too!! Tiffany B. BROWN (www.tiffanybbrown.com)!!!

@ NML: You rock!!!

@ lamesabassman: True. Can't please everyone.

@ Manuel: You said, "Love yourself first and foremost." That's like the Golden Rule of all interpersonal relationships.

@ Anjuan: Thanks for sharing your opinions, and thanks for the support! :)

@ Rochelle: Yes, yes. R. Kelley should DEFINITELY take note.

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Rochelle — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 14:39:25 -0000

If two (or more) consenting adults (R. Kelley-- take notes) agree to have sex, then who are we to judge? You know who you are FBC and the kind of person you are, and you shouldn't feel guilty or ashamed.

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Anjuan Simmons — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 02:52:13 -0000

Folks have moved on, but I do want to respond to some of the replies that referenced my comment.

@Rachel Kramer Bussel, @Lee Coles: I said in my post that these are not necessarily my views. My point was to describe (right or wrong) what a lot of American men think about women who engage in certain behavior. I agree that this type of thinking can be damaging (and even dangerous). However, a woman's behavior does affect how men respond to her. If you disagree, try this experiment. Have a woman try six months of wearing revealing clothing and having sex with every guy she dates. Then have her try six months of dressing modestly and staying celibate. I guarantee that you will see a difference in the kind of men who are drawn to her as well as how her relationships work out.

@Twanna I want to emphasize that I think you are a nice person, and I wish the best for you. It takes courage to put yourself out there, and I applaud you for it. Also, yes, it's possible for a person to get an STI from one sexual experience. However, statistically speaking, you are more likely to contract an STI by having sex with multiple partners than if you are monogamous (of course, with an equally monogamous partner). Just like you are more likely to get blown up if you run through a mine field with one hundred mines than if you ran through one with two or three. By the way, I am glad that you have be able to remain disease free. That's is a testimony, I'm sure, to the effectiveness of using condoms.

Continue being the lovable Funky Brown!

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Manuel — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 11:45:54 -0000

Always be comfortable in your own skin. You didn't hurt anyone and you cost the taxpayers nada, zippo or zilch.

Thats my usual filter on how I view others in life. Wish I could apply that to myself but I digress. You are correct that everyone was adults and willing participants. So be comfortable, whether you choose to play or no longer have such encounters it is up to you.

Love yourself first and foremost...

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lamesabassman — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 10:16:29 -0000

just two life lessons.... one , if it feels good ..do it..... and two, whatever gets
you thru the night..... is alright......

'cause one person's ceiling is another's floor they should'nt hate you
'cause they aint you when you are blessed with more....

lamesabassman..... you cant please everyone.. so it's best to please yourself....

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NML — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:33:46 -0000

FBC, don't allow people to steal your wind. You know who you are and when people say silly shit like that, it's about projecting their own fears on you. Don't lose sight of you and stay stood behind your decisions and choices. You are an amazing woman and you are liberated so don't let them trap you with their BS x

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tiffany — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:02:17 -0000

i've said this to you before, but i'll say it again: most folks haven't quite grasped the concept that people can be quite complex and seemingly contradictory.

we're all so busy hiding our secrets that we forget everyone has at least one.

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Twanna A Hines funkybrownchick — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 06:27:50 -0000

@ Tiffani: Fret not; I missed the memo too!! ;)

@ Grace: THANKS! And, where have I been? I hadn't heard "kick rocks" yet.

@ Lele: Interesting point! And, yeah, random sidenote, my longest relationship was with a guy that I slept with on the first date. Granted, we'd been friends for nearly a year so we already knew each other. But, you know, I'm just saying. ;)

@ Peggy b.: You rock!! Thanks. :)

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Roddykat — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 06:20:28 -0000

When I saw your Tweets about this, I kinda figured what was going on. RKB is right, you are you and that's what you should be. No one has the right peg you as other wise. I wish there were more people as free as you are in your sexuality. I know a couple of others and I love(and may be possibly jealous of)them for being so. It's so refreshing to see, especially being the voyeur that I am. :)

There's nothing wrong with being a freak. There is something wrong with the people that call others that as a negative connotation. Prick are prudes. It definitely is true that American suck-iety does itself harm by being prickly and self righteous. I say that as a American, by the way. Other countries don't have this hangup over sex, nudity, etc. It's crazy. Sex should not be this taboo, hidden idea that's only talked about in the shadows.

I think I've said enough, plus I can't remember what else I was going to say anyway.

Bottom Line:
I love coming to your site because you are you. And that better not change or else I'll have to send someone up there to give YOU a spanking....hey, wait. :)

Have a (*VIRTUAL HUG*), beautiful!

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Peggy b. — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 00:01:34 -0000

FBC,
As a strong willed, extrovert woman who's unashamed of her sexuality, I want to give you a hug. Everyone's said all the sweet, supportive stuff so I'll just say "ditto". I hope you've healed up a bit and are through with the crying while walking down the street stuff. You can't let them affect you like that. It's their problem.

There's also the other side of me that wants to shake you (gently) and feels I should remind you that America was founded by THE PURITANS--it was so supposedly sexually and morally corrupt in Britain 400 years ago that they had to get out and start their philosophy on new soil. Let that marinate for a minute.
So, if you choose to expose yourself, expect a lot of grief. Mostly, not so much because you did it but because you weren't ashamed of it. (and don't think that those most shocked by your admission and waving a finger at you didn't get a little moist or stiff thinking about it). So please, dear god, PLEASE never let me see you ever write another explanation post as to why you did it, and how you're not that freaky, blah blah blah. That's not your job to clarify yourself. Whatsmore, it's beneath you.

Expect the worst but embrace the best.

We still got your back.

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Lele — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 22:14:30 -0000

I personally think that some men are hypocrites. On one hand they want a sexually experienced woman but on the other hand they want someone who only been with a pre-determined number of partners. It's as if they have dreamed up this fem-bot who is outwardly virtuous but she is so turned on by him, so overcome with her feelings for him that she learns sexual techniques (by reading manuals) to fulfill his every desire.

That woman doesn't exist.

Thankfully, there are men in the world who understand that. I truly believe that if he's the right one for you, it would matter to him it you slept with him on the first date or the tenth. It wouldn't matter if you had 3 partners or 30.

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Grace — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 22:06:45 -0000

Boy am I ever late on this one. I'm also too lazy to read all the other comments. Anyway here's my 2 cents.

Classic Double Standard.

That's it seriously. If you were a guy no one would have said shit. In fact they would have been congratulating you as opposed to judging you. There is no problem being completely comfortable and responsible about your sexuality. Don't let anyone shame you for it. Especially since they are very likely just repressed and envious.

You do you. As long as you're happy and you aren't hurting anyone else, it's all good. Anyone who has a problem with that can go kick rocks.

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Tiffani — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:57:41 -0000

You've gotten a lot of responses with this post, so don't feel you have to respond to mine.

But my opinion, is that people are so closed minded anymore. You'd think that after a while, they would eventually open up. BUT....no.

I am not a slut, but I do have my fair knowledge of sex, relationships, etc. that I will share with anyone if/when the topic comes up or if they need advice. I have no problems with that. I have a friend who is in her late 20's - still a virgin and not very.....exposed to the topics of sex and whatnot. She was asking me questions and I would answer, and then the conversation came to a hault when she says "How many people have you been with, it seems like your OBSESSED with sex"

WTF?!?! Since when did having knowledge and not afraid to talk freely about it equal out to being a whore??? I must have missed that memo.

Stay who you are, FunkyBrown, don't let other people insecurities and ignorace keep you down!

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Twanna A Hines funkybrownchick — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 15:39:46 -0000

@ christina: Thanks for the fabulocity wishes! If I see Paulie, I promise you'll be the FIRST to see the pictures!

@ wynsters the tigress: THANK YOU! And, yeah, we all have our moments.

@ AmyB: They blocked moi?!?! :) Will think of codewords next time to get past the spam filters. And, yeah, I don't doubt your intentions and I have no regrets. I just had this moment where I was like, "Wow! People are hung up about this?? Is this why I'm single? Are all the guys in NYC really exactly like Anjuan described? Cognitively, I know that's not true for all guys. I just had, you know, "a moment." So, thanks for the hugs!

@ mrsbigg: Ditto!

@ Lee Coles: You said, "A lot of sexual judgment stems from either repression or envy." I think that's very true about life in general!

@ Marcello NYC: I'm staying brown, staying funky!! :)

@ CaitlinNYC: Um, yes, yes and yes. My family, friends, minister, past and present coworkers, high school prom date, the next door neighbor's cat and damn near everyone else who knows me reads this blog ... and, of course, quite a few people who don't know me, too. You mentioned, "This post made me think you werent so happy with the choice you made." Def not the case. I'm not ashamed of what I did and I have no regrets. And, there's nothing to say I wouldn't do it again with different people and/or in a different situation in the occasion arose. Who knows? As I mentioned above, the tears and frustration were due to the brief lapse in sanity when I actually thought ALL guys in New York wanted boring, passive, no-personality women who wouldn't challenge them or expect them to treat them like an equal. Do some guys want that? Oh, abso-fucking-lutely. Do ALL guys want that? No. I had a moment. It passed. I'm better now. THANKS for the good luck wishes and YES I'm looking forward to the Hamptons!! :)

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CaitlinNYC — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 14:08:28 -0000

FBC--When I first read your original post, I thought "wow, she really is uninhibited and it's great she is who she is with no excuses" and then i thought "i wonder if her family reads this blog" i would have rather read that original post and not seen this one. Most people don't have threesomes, esp with say a random guy at a party--not judging but i'm just saying that is a fact. When people are confronted with something that they are not used to or uncomfortable with they not only don't know how to react to the story they don't know how to react to you as a friend. esp if it's someone who thought they knew you and may have thought this is something you wouldnt do. Ppl who aren't comfortable with you, that's their problem--just be comfortable with yourself.
I liked what your friend said about ppl not being able to take you b/c you are open with your sexuality and a good girl at the same time. Ppl like labels, they like to see the good girl do good things and the bad girls do bad things. You should def have all the threesomes you want and stand by your decision no explanations necessary. This post made me think you werent so happy with the choice you made. I think its easier to not get offended when you feel like you were just being yourself. I agree somewhat with Anjuan, well i think i got what he was trying to say, although according to him i think 95% of women are sluts. Men just like to see good girls doing good things and bad girls doing bad things--i think thats just part of our culture. Keep your head up and stand by your choices you are an adult. I hope you not only find a man who loves you for you but also a great time in the hamptons.

xoxo Caitlin

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Marcello NYC — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 13:15:02 -0000

That last sentence did not come out correctly via my phone keypad.

Do what you want, write what you want - be yourself and don’t change a thing, because I think you are awesome and FUNKY!

Ciao,
M.
xxoo

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Marcello NYC — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 13:13:19 -0000

"Goosefrappa" - Jack Nicholson - Anger Management LOL

You did nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed about. All of the people that don't understand or have something to say are not true friends or just jealous.

Do what you want, write want you want - be yourself and don't change a thing, because I think awesome and FUNKY!

Ciao,
M.
xxoo

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Lee Coles — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 13:02:21 -0000

Anjuan:

What century are you living in? No one referred to men as sluts when they boasted of "threesomes", partying with Hef, sex w/ twins (urban legend), running trains, and orgies. And what does contracting an STD have to do w/ morality.

A lot of sexual judgement stems from either repression or envy. I haven't met you Anjuan, but Ted Haggard and Larry Craig were pretty judgemental too.

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mrsbigg — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 11:01:35 -0000

I get U FBC and support u..people are strange..Its just Sex people..its an animal instinct...deal with it..

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AmyB — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:41:18 -0000

Um...would now be a bad time to tell you I now see why my work has been blocking me from your site for the past week? ;o)

Honestly girl, this is an EXPERIENCE. I daresay this has enlightened you more than any experiences you've had this year! So what if people can't "get it?" If they judge you, it's only because they wonder what it's like, themselves...

I feel sad knowing this has brought you to a place where you possibly doubt your intentions. If they've let you down before, it was only because there was a lesson to be learned. Now is the same - so move on, enjoy your getaway, and use this as the fuel to propel you into tomorrow as the the kickass, strong, capable woman you are. (((HUGS)))

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wynsters the tigress — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 10:25:40 -0000

fbc, from what i've read so far on your blog, you're too cool and confident to let this get to you. although i'm not one to say so, fuck what other people think. you live in your world and frankly, those who want to be a part of it should be lucky and blessed.