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Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 04:10:29 -0000

close..... the bit in the garden .... where she is with one who is built and she wants to close the deal..... and all he wants to do
is marvel at the wonders of butterflies.... and not at all in to her...
and she has to endure that need that wont get fed for all eternity

lamesabassman...... long time ... no nut..... killer....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

dkzone — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 15:21:39 -0000

You mean the scene where the devil's peen shoots out sparks?

;)

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Fat Lady — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:00:48 -0000

First of all I think you have to define what a basic need is. I see most people here define it as something you can't live without - something that the lack of would cause you to die.

I'm not sure I see a basic need that way. I see it as something that is necessary to have not just a life, but a fulfilled life. I mean, we all know that food is a basic human need - if we don't eat for long enough, we die. However, we could survive by eating the same bland, tasteless gruel everyday - but it would be an unfulfilled life, a life that wouldn't feel worth living. The basic need of being fulfilled wouldn't be met.

And I think the need to be fulfilled is a basic one, even if not having it met doesn't result in death.

Warmth, affection, appreciation, intimacy are things that all people crave. Having these things can contribute to a life that feels more fulfilled - so I guess the desire for them could be considered a basic need. And since sex CAN fulfill all of those I guess the desire for good sex can be considered a basic need.

That's what I guess. Here's what I know. I've been in a relationship for 13 years in which the sex has always been lacking. I've battled with it. Tried to make things better. Blamed myself, blamed him, realized that no one was to blame - that's just the way it is. But even though no one was to blame, it's eaten away at me - my sense of self, my self-esteem. But by bit, little by little, the lack of a fulfilling sex life has diminished me as a person. I am alive, yes, at times, I have felt as though I exist under only the most limited, basic ideas of what life is. I have barely felt like a person.

And then, recently, something happened. Another man who I found attractive started flirting with me and the flirting progressed into something more, and just once - so far - we had what may be the best sex I've ever had - certainly the best I've had in 13 years. And suddenly I feel alive in ways I haven't in ages. The person I see looking back at me in the mirror is someone I haven't seen in YEARS!! She has a sparkle in her eye, her skin is aglow, she looks like she feels good and is ready to tackle the world - and she's me!!! My confidence is returning, my sense of myself, my desire to enjoy life is renewed.

This is what good sex is doing for me. So yes, I think the need for good sex is basic. If you just want to be alive, I guess no sex, or any sex is fine. But to really LIVE - I think good sex is important, vital.

Of course, all of this is based on someone with a naturally robust sex drive. I suppose someone with a more anemic sex drive would be just as alive without sex as with. But for someone like me who craves sex, life without it is just going through the motions.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 23:52:29 -0000

'tis time to break in a new recruit ....... for life is waaaaay 2 short to boogie like that...

lamesabassman..... May the Force be with you.....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 23:49:37 -0000

sooooo ..... ya keep a copy of " The Devil and Mrs. Jones " on ice, ehhh...
if you can get your hands on one..... check out the last 20 minutes.....

lamesabassman...... killer stuff....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Poor Married Sap — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 20:44:29 -0000

I have to agree that it's not a basic need. It's just very important to me because it makes me feel closer to my wife, when it actually happens. Other than that it's like being her roommate that just happens to sleep in the same bed. I have been married for almost three years and the sex is definitely dissipating, which is sad because our sex life when we were dating was amazing. I love the way she smells and tastes, the touch of her silky smooth skin, the way she moans and begs for more. I get hot just thinking about it then I have to go take care of myself due to the fact that "she has a headache'" she is "tired". I am so "tired" of that excuse, she claims she isn't one of those people who doesn't like sex, but she is definitely a prude. It's kind of pathetic how I can kiss her neck and seem in the mood and she just laughs and says not now. The sex was much better before we got married. It's non existent now.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:03:47 -0000

hellacool.....

lamesabassman......... a ground pounder.... fer sure......

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Akeela — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 10:51:44 -0000

Yes, it registered 7.9 on the Richter scale.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

karlewis — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 03:37:12 -0000

Nothing beats sex with the one you love. Especially when you're close to the same level sexually. You don't have to worry about diseases or if it will be good. The only thing you have to think about is how much you love their skin on yours.

love the blog... peace and love

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 00:50:19 -0000

having good sex.. a basic human need.. well.. if enough people had access to some..... my guess is that there would be no wars... ever ... and a ton of babies
world wide....

lamesabassman.... and my stock in Pampers would be smokin'....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 00:45:32 -0000

does this include a Wii....... sex is hellacool..... but ...the Wii is what keeps me warm
on some nights when I filter the cheese and decide to fly solo.....

lamesabassman...... owner of a lonely heart.... but have a wicked tennis backhand.....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

letinstar — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 22:21:08 -0000

you need air to breathe, water and food...anything else you get is a bonus...

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 18:02:39 -0000

True dat.... Mr.D ....... if you ever roam to Pink's webbie..... two words: road trip.. and you will never know just who will pop up for some dogs from Pink's
and..... on some dark and enchanted evening..... the back lot .... moves....
thus...... the kinda stunning connotation for a mundane bassist type swerve
observational tip......

lamesabassman...... dont follow leaders and watch your parking meters..

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Jackie — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 15:36:52 -0000

It is a basic human need for me. I have a Fuck Buddy with whom I have no particular chemistry but the sex is good. I see him maybe 3-4 times a year when I am single just to get some good sex.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Baba Doodlius — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 14:50:19 -0000

The phrase "a hot dog from Pink's" takes on a particularly interesting connotation when used in this context.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

dkzone — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 14:03:09 -0000

I liken bad sex to this

You know how you see blow up sex dolls? Imagine one of those without the vibrating feature. THAT'S Bad sex. Somebody who is inanimate.

It's funny, as a child i used to read these books called " the heroes in hell" it was written by a bunch of sci fi fantasy writers. The premise of it was that " who goes to hell?" famous people do because of all the scratching, clawing and backbiting you have to do to make it. napoleaon ends up living next door to Wellington. Everyone involved in ancient rome ends up living together.....That was hilarious. but one of the things that also happened in hell, was that you can have all the sex you want, but you just can't seem to orgasm........

That's bad sex.....or hell.... depending on how you cut it.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:33:19 -0000

the true basic need for human existence is : trust..... when you have trust in the one you are
with.... and I mean totally.... then whatever you do together will be beautiful..... if there is no
trust at all...... then you're just killing time, 'cause this tree is not going to bend to no wind..
trust..... without it .... we are just going thru the motions of Love....

lamesabassman...... with no climax.......

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:24:44 -0000

and .... Akeela..... when you did find the one that made you smile.....

lamesabassman...... did the Earth ..... move.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:20:22 -0000

good sex ..... it's like catching the perfect wave..... playing a strong game of Blackjack..
a hot dog from Pink's..... a long drive in a 930 up the PCH..... it will rock your world...
and stay in your brain like that first kiss you got when you didn't think you were gonna
get one.... bad sex...... will leave a bad taste in your mouth ( no pun intended )... like
being told to eat your veggies when you dont wanna.....

lamesabassman...... but ... does any port in a storm strike a familiar tone..... hmmmm

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:11:36 -0000

Twanna...... you just made the brave choice of not to settle for less anymore....
for 2 long you were standing at the crossroads of Life waiting for the light to change.... while fully realizing now that you're the Light that change must revolve
around..... and when that happens..... well, boy howdy, you can really filter
the cheese very well..... only you know just what you are bringing to the table... the rest are soooo clueless to the depth of your wonderfulness... but ... whose
who take time to really take you into their heart.... ahhh.... that where the fun
is.....
and since the love you make equals to the love you take... the frequency of
coupling in a relationship depends on the pace one sets in the very
beginning of the relationship..... if you base it on the mind..... it could last
forever ... if both minds are on the same page..... and ... if you base it on sex..
the sex will be hellacool for a NY minute.... then it's " wake me when you're
done... 'cause you're the only one having fun" time.... and that's when stuff
starts to drift...... and.... you will roam elsewhere.....
soooo .... Bravo to you, Twanna...... for life and all it's smiles is on point and coming your way...... sooner than you think......

lamesabassman....... May the Force be with you.....

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

lamesabassman — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 12:50:31 -0000

Will...... if it was up to me ..... you would be a candidate for the Purple Heart with
oak clusters..... to say that you were blind-sided..... Dang.... you must have been
truly in love to hand in there for sooooo long..... let me tell ya..... she is missing you like hell right now.... and you know why..... 'cause NOBODY will take what
she is selling as long as you did.....and you didn't do anything but love her and what she didnt let on what was the subrosa baggage within .... had you knew the
depth of the baggage.... I doubt that you would have not held on for so long....
now you have to secure your daughter future so you can have some peace....
and with the ex-wife and her boyfriend deal..... you might have to make an
offer that she cannot refuse......

lamesabassman....... hang tough.... better days are comin' at ya......

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Alicia "aka" Fashiona — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 12:10:49 -0000

hmmm. I don't think sex good or otherwise is a basic need. We need water, food and air. Everything else is an acquired taste. Having said that I would rather have rare great sex than lots of mediocre sex.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

Dulce Liebe — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 11:18:10 -0000

Nope-it's not a basic human need in my opinion.Love could be, affection but not sex. Sex is a gift to be enjoyed by married couples.

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

carolina pereira — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 08:33:43 -0000

i agree with you. those feelings you describe are wonderful. you definitely deserve them :)

Re: Is Good Sex a Basic Human Need?

sam — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 03:37:55 -0000

One day it just did nothing for me and I realized that it was because we ultimately didn't have that connection. We were never going to love each other.